60 Seconds - A License to Strike?

Dr. Richard Dobbins, in his book, "Narrowing The Risk Of Mate Selection," wrote, "No one takes a bigger chance than when he or she marries. There's nothing like being married. If you're happily married, there's nothing like it. If you're unhappily married, there's still nothing like it."

pocketwatchIt has been observed that some couples seem to view their marriage certificate as "a license to strike." Difficulties, separation, and sadly, divorce, are seldom a blow-out, but a slow leak.

A seasoned marriage counselor has observed how couples wound one another in their marriage. He gave the following:

What Wounds A Woman

  • An awareness that she is not first in her husband's life
  • Her husband's failure to recognize her attempts to please him
  • Unfavorable comparison to other women
  • Her husband's lack of spiritual leadership
  • Rejection of her opinion as important
  • Inconsistency in the discipline of the children
  • Attempts to correct her in public

What Wounds A Man

  • Resistance to his will
  • Lack of confidence in his opinion or decisions
  • Resentments for past failures
  • Failure to build loyalty in the children
  • Lack of a grateful spirit
  • Inconsistency in the discipline of the children
  • Criticism in public

In his chapter, "Before Divorce," Harold Hazelip stated, " Someone has said that marriage is a work of art that is never finished. It is the most challenging and complex of all the works a human being can create. It is not like painting, poetry, architecture, or a novel. We can never put down the tools of this art form, step back, and pronounce the work complete. Marriage is an ongoing project."

"Husbands, love your wives," Ephesians 5:25.

"Admonish the...women to love their husbands," Titus 2:4.

Dave Arnold, Pastor
Gulf Coast Worship Center
New Port Richey, Fl.