I see leaders across this country that have benefited from maximizing their own leadership skills, but are failing to pass those skills along to their staff and other emerging leaders. I hear the excuses. "I can't find the time," or "I'm still evaluating their potential."
If we could just get honest with ourselves, we might see that our reluctance is often based in fear. We never vocalize it, but internally, we are afraid that if we invest in developing other leaders, bad things might happen. We won't admit our fear that if we mentor someone:
* I won't be indispensable any more. * My authority might be challenged some day. * Others might prefer the emerging leader over me. * Their influence could surpass my own. * They might receive credit due to me.
Simply writing these fears down helps us see they are all rooted in our own insecurity. As long as we allow these petty anxieties to shackle us, we'll never achieve the greatest satisfaction of a leader - the legacy of multiple leaders achieving far more than we ever dreamed of accomplishing ourselves. Here are some things to consider that can help you crush those insecurities.
* Remember that someone invested in you.
The recent movie "Pay it Forward" told the story of a boy who believed he could change the world if he could perform three big acts of kindness for others; they would, in turn, perform three big acts of kindness for others. While the story came from Hollywood, the principle comes from life. All of us who lead are the beneficiaries of someone else's investment in us. If you don't "pay it forward," the greatest loss will be yours.
* Decide to trust and be willing to be burned.
If you mentor enough emerging leaders, you will probably be disappointed, hurt, even betrayed by some along the way. Do it anyway. It's a small price to pay in exchange for the privilege of watching others you've invested in overcome challenges and literally change the world.
* Deal with past disappointments in your life.
In the last edition of "Leadership Wired," I talked about eliminating emotional clutter from your life. This is a good example of what I mean. Until you forgive those who have disappointed you and move on from your past, you'll be ineffective at shaping the future through others.
* Become more convinced of the future.
Some leaders live as though they expect to be around forever. My heart attack a few years ago reminded me that we're all just a heartbeat away from vacating our office. Who is coming along ready to take your place? If you won't mentor someone to take your organization into the future, you can bet that your adversaries will.
* Be willing to experience something greater.
Leading people is gratifying. But watching the leaders that you have developed lead, is even more gratifying. Face your insecurities and your irrational fears today, so that tomorrow you can begin planting for a harvest that will yield for generations to come.
This article is used by permission from Dr. Dan Reiland's free monthly e-newsletter 'The Pastor's Coach' available at www.injoy.com